Navigating Friendships: What to Do If You Dislike Your Friend's Partner

In light of recent drama from Netflix's 'Selling Sunset', we explore how to manage friendships when you disagree with a friend's partner. Experts share insights on handling these delicate situations.

Recent episodes from the ninth season of 'Selling Sunset' triggered debates surrounding friendships and toxic partnerships. The show's stars, Chrishell Stause and Emma Hernan, have been at the center of this discussion due to their escalating feud over Emma's boyfriend, Blake Davis, whom Chrishell openly dislikes.

This debate reaches beyond reality TV, as many find themselves in similar dilemmas in real life. We've spoken with individuals and relationship experts to provide actionable advice on this nuanced topic.

Friends Falling Out

Chrishell Stause's disdain for Hernan's relationship stems from her concerns about Davis's behavior, labeling it as 'love bombing', a manipulative tactic that often includes excessive affection and attention.

Conflict escalated during a reunion episode culminating in numerous online discussions. One woman, Hannah, shared her experience of losing a long-time friend over a disapproved partner. Despite her desire to protect her friend, the intervention only strained their relationship further.

Advice from Relationship Experts

Experts Anna Williamson and Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar shed light on navigating friendships when a partner's behavior is concerning. They emphasize the importance of expressing care without casting judgment, as this may cause the friend to become defensive.

Anna Williamson suggests starting the conversation by noting the friend's changes: 'I care about you so much but I want to check in because I've noticed that you seem really stressed lately.' It is crucial to stick to observed facts rather than opinions about the partner.

Both experts caution against gossiping or discussing the partner with others, as this can create drama and deepen misunderstandings.

Staying Civil Amidst Differences

Sometimes the issue might not be toxicity but conflicting values or views. If a partner’s beliefs clash with your own, it's essential to maintain respect and civility in the friendship, according to Shaheen-Zaffar.

Ultimately, deciding if a friendship can survive a disliked partner involves a personal evaluation of one's own values and boundaries. As Hannah concluded, some situations demand difficult choices for mental well-being.